Why when i meet a very nice gentleman that i know is into me i dont make an effort to go on a second date? but yet when there is another gentleman who is much more ambiguous, i cant get him out of my mind and make an effort to see again? why am i like that? is it fear? am i shallow in some way? do i like the mind games that i create for my self? i really dont but i am starting to fall into a pattern.